My dad's first birthday after death

Fucking facebook has been sending me reminders of my dad birthday. As if I could forget.

He would be turning 63 on June 2nd. But he won't. Because he died on October 11th, 2012.

I run out of words..

Rediscovering myself

I don't like earphones.

I have never liked them. The few times I've used them, they've hurt my ear.
Or maybe the dislike goes deeper than that, maybe I don't like to feel disconnected from the world, unaware of what's going on around me.

What other things do I not like?

I don't like country music or heavy metal... specially because the latter makes me feel anxious, because I just hear noise and can't really make up what instruments are being used.

I don't like messes. But I hate cleaning up.
I don't like clutter, but it is so hard for me to throw away some things. There are letters, notes from friends, concert stubs, photos, gifts. I keep too much, I remember too much.

I miss hearing my dad's voice. It broke my heart to say good-bye to him every time we talked on the phone from so many miles away, until we couldn't talk anymore.

I hate death.

I found a list

...of things to do to live life to the fullest. I like it.
1. Stop worrying about money 
2. Stop worrying about what other people think
3. Take two holidays a year
4. Enjoy little comforts in life
5. Experience different cultures
6. Work to live rather than live to work 
7. Pay off all debts 
8. Be true to yourself
9. Concentrate on what you have instead of what you don’t have 
10.Use money on experiences rather than saving for a rainy day
11. Make time for family and friends
12. Try all types of food
13. Find true love
14. Travel to at least 25 different foreign countries
15. Go outside more
16. Learn a new language  (let's say a third language!)
17. Be well thought of by family and friends
18. Help a member of your family out when they really need it  (this is an ongoing)
19. Lose a stone in weight
20. Treat each day like it’s your last
21. Visit all of DC's historical landmarks
22. Book an impulsive last minute holiday
23. Volunteer for a good cause 
24. Take up a challenge
25. Go on safari
26. Blow a load of money in one shopping trip, just because you can
27. Learn a new instrument 
28. Be married for longer than 20 years
29. Have enough money left for the grandchildren to enjoy
30. Start a family
31. Earn more than your age
32. Have a pet 
33. Drive a really fast car (no thank you)
34. Travel alone
35. Be able to keep the kids on the straight and narrow
36. Meet strangers
37. Move away from home to an unfamiliar place
38. Have a one night stand
39. Pass your driving test 
40. Get a degree 
41. Rescue someone so that you’re a hero for a little while
42. Date someone exciting but completely wrong for you
43. Get a promotion
44. Reach the desired career peak by age 40
45. Have an all-night drinking session 
46. Perform something on stage in front of others 
47. Snog a stranger 
48. Plan a surprise party
49. Embark on adrenaline packed activities such as sky diving or bungee jumping 
50. Spend time with children even if they aren’t yours